summer days and the clothes that come with it..

so it's summer time.
that time of year that i love. but that time of year that takes on a whole new set of problems for those of us who are moms...of boys.
the days are getting longer, and the shorts are getting shorter!
i wrote this post 3 years ago. and i felt like it was about time to bring it up again and remind those moms of girls how we can work together to raise our kids right!

i feel like i am constantly trying to distract my boys from inappropriately dressed females. now before you start judging me for taking my kids to victoria's secret with me or something (which i DO NOT)...the times i am doing this the most is AT CHURCH! WHAT??? 
are you serious?? 
um. yes. 
ok, i guess i am having a little conversation with myself.

i came across this verse not too long ago:



do you understand what this means? it is repeated 3 times in Song of Solomon. 
the females today are waking something up early...the innocence of our boys. how many moms of boys are with me right now?? shouldn't we be able to go to the park, or go to the grocery store, or GO TO CHURCH and not have to fear that the innocent thoughts of our boys are being stirred up by girls - of all ages? 

this emphasized truth in the Bible bears repeating, and i think it is put so well. it is explained in a way that i never really thought of. 

this desire that a man has for a woman's body is very beautiful, natural and holy. 
however, it is meant for marriage only! 
it is not meant to be discovered by my 8-year-old, who can not have a complete understanding of what it all means. 

it is not meant to be awakened and stirred up yet! 
it is supposed to be...i guess the opposite of awakened would be dormant? 
defined: temporarily in abeyance yet capable of being activated 
so it is temporary, but it is necessarily so!

you moms who have girls, and you moms yourselves...can you help those of us with young boys out? 
can you choose to wear a tank under your low shirt? can you teach your girls the importance of modesty and the fact that attraction is from your inward qualities? 

see, that is what i, and so many other moms are trying to train our boys to look for...inward qualities. 

don't get me wrong, i am all about style. but here's the thing. you can still look cute and be modest! 
it might mean making a small adjustment here and there, but it is worth it! 

i pray every night that my boys will stay pure. in their thoughts, and in their lives. 
i also pray for my boys future wives. that they will keep themselves pure. 
that they will not let their adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God."

so please...the times i am teaching my boys to make a covenant with their eyes not to look with lust at a young woman? (job 31:1)

can you be teaching your girls to dress modestly, and with decency? (1 timothy 2:9)

this way my boys will have your girls to hang out with.
and see...this is how it's supposed to work.

we do our part, you do your part, they do their part.
awesome.
ready. set. go.